I can't wait till Sam Davidson's new book comes out entitled "50 Things Your Life Doesn't Need". I'm hoping to get an advanced copy soon, but I happen to know the first thing on the list is "Drama".
Life comes with plenty of drama all by itself, sure. But the trick is keeping it to a dull roar. If you think things are happening TO you, think again. You have a choice here, you either allow things to happen to you, or you don't. Sure, there are the unexpected bumps in the road, but seriously, how much drama do you bring on yourself? Here's a few things that might work if you're sick and tired of daily upheavals in your life:
1) Don't take on other people's stuff! Sure, it's okay to be a shoulder and care, but it's THEIR stuff. Don't own it like it's your own.
2) Set boundaries! My favorite hot topic right now. Be clear about what's okay and not okay for you. If it's not okay, then stay away! If you don't get "boundaries", read the book: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454
3) Be as clear as possible in your communication. This is hard if you're not used to it. Tell people what you need or don't need. No one I know is a mind reader. If you're not getting what you need, you may only have yourself to blame.
4) Take care of business now. Procrastination is a petri dish for drama. Deal with what's on your plate, and let it go.
5) Gossip and TMI breed drama too. Not only does it make you perhaps a not so great confidant, you are doing nothing but putting junk on your plate.
6) And speaking of your plate.....Keep a "clean spot" on your plate. As a painter, I make it a practice of leaving a spot on my palette that's clean. I may need that spot and working to keep space open, allows for those little surprise moments when I need it. Chefs do this too. A plate with a "clean spot" is much more appetizing than a plate piled high.
Drama is a drag. It's an energy drain. It's simply weight you are carrying that you don't need. Why carry around a 50 lb bag if a 10 lb bag will do just fine? Final thought on this: What are you GETTING from the drama in your life? If you're hanging on to it, or can't seem to release it, you ARE getting something from it. This is just a fact!
I'll let you know when Sam's book is available. Might be the best present you ever bought yourself. http://samdavidson.net/books/
Life comes with plenty of drama all by itself, sure. But the trick is keeping it to a dull roar. If you think things are happening TO you, think again. You have a choice here, you either allow things to happen to you, or you don't. Sure, there are the unexpected bumps in the road, but seriously, how much drama do you bring on yourself? Here's a few things that might work if you're sick and tired of daily upheavals in your life:
1) Don't take on other people's stuff! Sure, it's okay to be a shoulder and care, but it's THEIR stuff. Don't own it like it's your own.
2) Set boundaries! My favorite hot topic right now. Be clear about what's okay and not okay for you. If it's not okay, then stay away! If you don't get "boundaries", read the book: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454
3) Be as clear as possible in your communication. This is hard if you're not used to it. Tell people what you need or don't need. No one I know is a mind reader. If you're not getting what you need, you may only have yourself to blame.
4) Take care of business now. Procrastination is a petri dish for drama. Deal with what's on your plate, and let it go.
5) Gossip and TMI breed drama too. Not only does it make you perhaps a not so great confidant, you are doing nothing but putting junk on your plate.
6) And speaking of your plate.....Keep a "clean spot" on your plate. As a painter, I make it a practice of leaving a spot on my palette that's clean. I may need that spot and working to keep space open, allows for those little surprise moments when I need it. Chefs do this too. A plate with a "clean spot" is much more appetizing than a plate piled high.
Drama is a drag. It's an energy drain. It's simply weight you are carrying that you don't need. Why carry around a 50 lb bag if a 10 lb bag will do just fine? Final thought on this: What are you GETTING from the drama in your life? If you're hanging on to it, or can't seem to release it, you ARE getting something from it. This is just a fact!
I'll let you know when Sam's book is available. Might be the best present you ever bought yourself. http://samdavidson.net/books/
